Here you go! Are you ready! It’s right around the corner! Family Life’s Weekend to Remember in Williamsburg. Over the years we have seen thousands of marriages strengthen or saved through the Weekend to Remember. This year it will be held on November 18-20 at the Colonial Williamsburg Lodge located at 310 S. England Street in Williamsburg 23185. For more information, please go to www.FamilyLife.com/WeekendtoRemember.
And now, Building Blocks to a Strong Marriage. There are 10. We will look at five today and the other five in the next blog. These come from the Radio Bible Class publications. Marriage isn’t so much finding the right person as being the right person.
Building Block 1 – Lifelong commitment. The Bible is clear marriage is to be between one man and one women for a lifetime. Hear my heart, for those of you who are in a second marriage, I don’t mean to make you feel guilty. If you do feel that it smells like smoke and comes from the dark side. Jesus died not because we are so good, but because we desperately needed a Savior for so many reasons. However, the scripture is clear in Matthew 19:4-9 as to what God expects from marriage. There are many legitimate and necessary reasons for divorce, but it is obviously not God’s ideal for marriage.
Building Block 2 – Shared identity. In marriage, a man and women are brought into union. They become one flesh. Time, love, forgiveness and patience are needed to become one! Together now you have a shared identity.
Building Block 3 – Absolute Faithfulness. The Bible is uncompromising in its demand for sexual faithfulness. What does that mean? We will save our hearts for each other. We will keep our promise of loyalty. We will not seek comfort from anyone, but our spouse. We will let no one come between us.
Building Block 4 – Well Defined Roles. Today’s society has made an all-out assault on marriage. The Bible teaches. Don’t let a root of bitterness take hold lest it causes much spiritual damage in many people’s lives.” The husband’s role is leadership as described in 1 Cor. 11:3, Ephesians 5:23-25, 1 Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19 and Ephesians 5:28.
Building Block 5 – Unreserved Love. Love is genuine, heart-felt, through thick-and-thin, till death do us part love. In this way we honor and esteem one another. This kind of love develops because two people are willing to really work at it. It doesn’t happen automatically. The love chapter First Corinthians 13 is extremely clear on what this kind of love looks like. When a couple treat each other in this way they can’t help but have a beautiful marriage and a peaceful life.
Building Block 6 – Mutual Submission. In Ephesians 5:18, 21 Paul speaks about the importance of mutual submission. Submission and love go together. Christian couples submit themselves primarily to God and then to each other. Having the “mind of Christ” is our goal. A good marriage is give and take. It is often difficult. Marriage is being a servant. Marriage knows when it is loving to “give in.” Marriage is helping when she is tired. The best thing to do is to humble ourselves toward each other and the children.
Building Block 7 – Sexual Fulfillment. Since the Garden of Eden intimacy and mutual physical fulfillment have always been part of the husband-wife relationship. Charles Swindoll says, “Thinking correctly about marital intimacy lays the groundwork for enjoying life fully.” Proverbs 5:15-19 is a wonderful description of what married life should be like sexually. It is so intimate that it is almost embarrassing!
Building Block 8 – Open Communication. In a recent survey from the Family Services Association indicated that 87% of couples said communication was their biggest problem in marriage. Here are some of the reasons husbands and wives don’t communicate effectively. They take each other for granted. They want to avoid a confrontation. They are obsessed with their own interests. They feel they are being manipulated. They are too hurried to take the time to communicate well. And they don’t want to hurt the other person. For a marriage to be strong these barriers must be broken down.
Building Block 9 – Tender Respect. In Ephesians 4: 31-32, the Apostle Paul wrote: Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you.” 1 Peter 3:7 says, “Dwell with your wife in an understanding way, give honor to her because you are heirs together of the grace of life.”
Building Block 10 -Spiritual Companionship. A husband and wife are going through life on a spiritual journey together. What a difference it makes when a marriage has a godly husband and a dedicated wife and they are spiritual companions. They worship the same God. They both seek to do the will of God. They are both accountable to Christ. They raise their children in a Christian home. They pray for and with each other. They encourage each other in the faith.
Weekend to Remember® Marriage Getaway
Two upcoming Hampton Roads getaway's to choose from:
When: November 18-20, 2016
Where: Colonial Williamsburg Lodge, Williamsburg, VA | Register
When: February 10-12, 2017
Where: Founders Inn, Chesapeake, VA | Register
(For hotel information and pricing, please see the Getaway Hotel section below.)
Williamsburg, VA 23185-4266
Hotel phone: 800-261-9530